My wife loves black men. A narrative of the life and adventures of Charles Ball, a black man, who lived forty years in Maryland, South Carolina and Georgia, as a slave White Women and Politics in Antebellum Virginia. An Overview The fact that affairs between planter-class women and slaves were relatively uncommon is unsurprising; white women in the South were sexually restricted as compared to their male counterparts, and nineteenth-century contraceptive techniques were not nearly effective or accessible enough to ward off the possibility of pregnancy. And her husband was the one who found people for her. If there is a stereotype of your average British swinger, Sarah is not it. Why are black men willing to embrace the myths of hypersexuality and abnormally large endowment? They want to feel a strong man inside them, dominating them. Because black men like black women were seen as inherently lustful and prone to sexual vice, for an elite woman to have illicit sex with a black rather than a white man might have been a slightly safer bet; it was easier to blame a black man of rape than a white man. African men had enormous penises, these accounts suggested. I remember this suspicion as a teenager, feeling that white boys and men, for whom I was often the first black woman they had ever met, did not see me, but whatever it was that they were projecting on to my blackness: Then there will be no concealment; and you will see and hear things that will seem to you impossible among human beings with immortal souls. If they could, they would have one of us in their houses in a room, just kept there, for when needed.