A man who's using you for sex doesn't want to spend time chitchatting about your day or what you think about the big events in the news. A man who values you and wants to get to know you, because he's interested in a relationship, makes you feel special and treats you considerately. You can invite him over to play a board game or to watch a movie. Obviously, some times it's not convenient for new lovers to automatically spend the night after having sex. To him, it's part of developing a warm, close connection with you. Larry Schwimmer is president of Astrodecision. Instead, he's quick to grab your hand and march you over to the bedroom to have sex with you. No he never had a girlfriend No he had some girlfriends, nothing much. By Larry Schwimmer It's so great to meet someone, where the chemistry is there. If you aren't receptive, he may become extremely angry at not getting his way. If spending the night is important to you, invite him to stay before you have sex. I'm tired and I have an early day at work. So, to placate you and even deal with the boredom he may feel in your company, he'll suggest you get together to watch a movie or listen to music at your place or his. Players, who only have a sexual interest in you, use texts and emails as opportunities to turn the discussion into sexual conversation.