If this feels corny, you should only do what makes you both get in the mood. Spanking is a great way to show your dominance from any position. After you do this, sex comes naturally. Part 2 Treating Her Well 1 Treat her like a lady. But very soon, boredom will set in and the excitement of passionate sex will start to dwindle and fizzle in no time. If you act completely oblivious when she's obviously upset about something, then she'll think you're not really paying attention to her. If things have been getting hot and heavy in the hook up department, then she may be ready to move forward. Light the candles and turn the radio on to get her in a romantic mindset, and offer her something to eat or drink. There are plenty of ways to be dominant in the bedroom and these are just a few of them. Take your time before penetration, and both of you will enjoy sex a lot more. Read the introduction on how to please a woman emotionally and sexually to build a better emotional relationship before using these sexual tips. Accept that some girls will never have sex until they're married and that there's nothing you can do to change their mind. Spank her with it. If your clothes are off or partly off, you can kiss her breasts or touch her in more sensual ways. Let's face it -- if you're a male of a certain age who is desperate for his girlfriend to have sex with him, then you probably are obsessed with sex. Because this will make your girlfriend feel like you like her, but that you're in control of your desires and aren't desperate to get your hands all over her -- even if you are. Then swing for the fences when you two hit the shower.