She knew he loved her and used that love for her own ends. That said, there's nothing wrong with an actor saying he or she had a difficult time with certain scenes. Though when all said and done this is a tv show, and what I said was my personal opinion only, I know there are some that loved this, and many that didn't, I didn't because of the young teen age girls who watched this show and somehow got the notion that this is a good relationship, even James Marsters at a Con I read told fans that "No guy should treat a woman like that" apparentaly shocked by some teen girls who really loved it, It might be that SMG feels the same way, that it was some were getting the totally wrong message, that it was not romantic, it was supposed to be portrayed as being un-healthy and bad Nuke May 08, Buffy's relationship with Spike in particular manages to encompass the series at its very best, and it's this relationship that, even at its most troubling, has stuck with me long after Buffy's final episode aired. As Buffy's legacy continues, I think about how the show taught me things about myself that I didn't realize I was learning at the time. The oft-maligned sixth season of Buffy is much better than you remember. And it did, and it knocked me out. Spike tells Warren that he can "play Holodeck another time. November 20, , when she and the soulless vampire Spike had sex so passionately it tore a house down. Marsters calls the day they shot the scene the hardest day of his professional life.